Other times I show the lonely, alienated, or hurt how to fall in love all over again when they have misplaced their love and cannot find it anymore.
I will show you how to have the love you want.
No, there is nothing magic or special about me. It is that I know love. As with most of us, I have learned it in personal experiences – both good and bad – but I have also learned it from social and medical science that I study constantly. Most importantly, I have learned it from working with multiplied thousands of couples and guiding them successfully through a process that creates, deepens, or restores love. I call that process the LovePath.
The Most Wonderful Rumor
There is something innately human about the LovePath. If I were to ask several great philosophers to define the meaning of life, I imagine I would receive a variety of responses, from the religious to the philosophical. However, most of the answers, regardless of their complexity, would ultimately have something to do with that simplest of words, the idea that launched 10,000 pop songs and old movies, and the quest that every world religion ultimately embraces: Our need for love.
As human beings, we have needs that scientists can explain and quantify. We need a breath of oxygen every couple of seconds. We need water every few hours. We need food every day, and we need shelter every night. These are the simple physical requirements of survival. However, we need love and acceptance, too. Once those more basic survival needs are taken care of, we spend most of our lives searching for this great desire that satisfies the soul, this experience of love.
This thing that we all want so badly does not cost a dime, yet the pure form of it we seek is more precious than gold. I am speaking, of course, about what we might call “true love.” Because you are a human being, I believe you know exactly what I am talking about.
Of course, there is bad love. I imagine you could tell some stories about your own experiences. If bad love could be cashed in at the bank, we would all be very wealthy.
However, true love — now that is another thing entirely. We do not want to compromise on the quality of love that we get out of life. We want the kind that is overpowering, that sweeps us off our feet. So how do we get our hands on it?
Some people believe there is no such thing. They say that as long as people themselves cannot be true, then neither can there be true love. Sure, most of these cynics have fallen head-over-heels in love just like everyone else. Nevertheless, in the end, after love failed, they decided that maybe it was all an illusion, a hormonal hiccup, a biological itch that had to be scratched, a passing fancy after you made some fancy passes. Love comes, as they say, and it goes. It is simply too good to last.
Moreover, some of these good folk insist that love is a mysterious force, a powerful roaming emotion with a mind of its own. It is a viral infection of passion that we catch for a while. This thing, they claim, is no more within our control than having an asteroid plummet out of space to flatten us on the sidewalk. Love is mercurial. After all, you didn’t hire Cupid, and neither did your mate. The little winged fellow flew out from behind a bush one day and fired a couple arrows your way, like in the cartoons. The trouble, according to this myth, is that the narcotic on the tip of those arrows is temporary. It wears off, and there is nothing you can do about it. Ask some of the Hollywood stars who appear so regularly in the gossip columns; the narcotic on some of their arrows apparently lasts two or three weeks.
Therefore, we have some who say true love does not exist, and some who say true love does not endure.
But we cannot make ourselves believe them, can we? Because for all the bad love we have endured, observed, and heard about, the rumors persist of something that is not like bad love at all — something real and wonderful. Just when we think love has gone completely out of style, we run into some stubborn instance of a sincere, genuine, and powerful love. Have you ever seen an elderly couple like that? You will occasionally meet two octogenarians as fully devoted to one another as they were half a century ago. These two do not seem just to tolerate each other, but absolutely dote upon each other. No, I am not talking about the gentleness and politeness common to many seniors. I’m talking about a very obvious passion between two ordinary human beings — a passion that has endured and even strengthened, year by year, and that actually keeps the life and light shining from their eyes even in their declining years.
It is not confined to some past generation either. There are couples out there who enjoy a fabulous and fulfilling love relationship every day. Do they ever bicker? Absolutely they do. Do they act like love-struck teenagers who are obsessed with each other? Nope, we are not talking about hearts-and-flowers stuff, but mature, fully developed love that makes better human beings out of everyone who finds it.
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